Etiquette and proper behaviour were highly regarded in days gone by, days of well dressed ladies and proper gentlemen. A lot has changed over time, some changes for better, while others leave much to be desired. Let’s revive the good, shall we??
The very basics that we have all learnt as kids;
If you tease someone and they don’t like it, stop it and don’t do it again.
Wash your hands after using the bathroom.
Remember to say “please” and “thank you”.
Be kind and treat everyone with respect– no matter who they are.
Girls, sit with your legs closed.
And now for the rules we tend to forget as adults interacting with each other on a daily basis;
Don’t call someone more than twice. If they don’t answer the second time allow them to return your call as they may have something they’re occupied with.
RSVP early. Doing otherwise gives the impression that the event doesn’t excite you at first thought.
Ask before bringing a plus 1, or your kids, or even your dog to an event you’re invited to. Never assume they’re automatically invited.
Dress accordingly for the occasion, and then dress to impress.
Be on time, no one (yourself included) likes to wait for someone who’s late.
Stand when being introduced to someone, which conveys respect for the person you’re meeting and at the same time indicates how respectful you are.
Learn people’s names; this includes spelling (if applicable) and proper pronunciation of said name.
Learn the art of conversation; never interrupt or cut someone while they’re talking. And don’t monopolize a discussion.
Don’t ask awkward questions or make comments that are likely to make someone uncomfortable e.g. ‘Why don’t you have any kids’
Praise publicly. Criticize privately
Have integrity; say what you mean and mean what you say.
Learn proper table manners
Return money you’ve borrowed before the lender has to ask for it as they probably need it. The same applies to everything else you borrow.
When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t keep swiping. You never know what’s next…
Keep the door open for the person coming behind you; regardless of whether it’s a man or woman, young or old; we don’t grow small by treating others with kindness.
Remember to tip service people as a token of gratitude.
Refrain from using vulgar language
Give people a pass; don’t one-up someone’s nasty behaviour, you have no idea what trials they’re facing.
These social rules are obviously obvious when you think about it- ultimately, it goes back to the sentiment that you should treat everyone the same way you think you deserve to be treated; with kindness and respect.
Remember; good manners and good wine are timeless. Cheers to a life well-lived,
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